Breathe

I have been doing some reflections lately in my life and I came across many things that I've discovered and would like to share some of them with you. 

We get stuck in labels. She is strong. He is funny. She is positive. You get my point. These labels manifest in our heads and we start believing that this is what you always need to project, this is how people see me and this is how I should always be. But this is not true. I am the strongest girl I know this month and the weakest one around the next. I have the cool sense of humor and the next day I can not get a joke. We need to stop getting stuck in boxes. This causes us to put so much pressure on ourselves and it is unhealthy. Be whoever the hell you wake up wanting to be. No pressure. No label.

Find a fixation. Find something that you can do, a car ride, a place you can sit, writing, drawing, dancing, yoga, singing in the shower. Find something that you can go to when everything else doesn't make sense (this happens a lot) For me it was long walks. I would walk kilometers and drop everything behind to reevaluate everything.

I've always been scared of losing myself. Losing who I am, losing what makes me me. Surprise! I've lost myself the past couple of months and I am still alive and still loved. It is ok to lose track of who you are and where your life is heading. Just make sure to not dwell and when you are ready, you'll come back a newer better version of yourself.

This is the corny one: Love. You can not go anywhere without it. Believe in it. Believe in its power. I am so blessed to be loved by so many special people in my life. They remind me to love myself. It's special. It is not corny, it is not weak. 

Talk to God. Yes pray but also talk to God. I reached a point where I talked to god every night and sometimes I'd laugh at things I'm saying and then realize what I'm doing so I'd laugh more. This helps making this into a close relationship where you can feel at ease with God because you've confided in him in a casual way. It helped me.

There is a fine line between putting a problem into perspective and undermining a problem. This fine line is dangerous. Yes there are much worse issues in the world but also acknowledge your problem and let those around you acknowledge it too.

Apologize. It is not an act of weakness. At some point, I had some days when I had an attitude and some other days when I was needy, some where I'm feisty. After every time, I apologized. It makes those around you appreciative. When you know you've done something wrong or not nice, just say it. You do not want to drive the people around you away. Go back a few points. Love.

Your mind is a dangerous treasure cave. You need to consistently fight snakes, dragons and what not to keep the treasure safe and (sane). Do not let it control you. Every time you are overthinking - you are fighting the snake, being negative - you are fighting the dragon, obsessing - you are fighting the scorpion, remind yourself that.

Allow yourself to feel what you feel and don't be afraid even if it is negative. It helps with letting go of that feeling eventually. 

And breathe. Everything passes. Remember that and breathe.